Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Life is a learning journey. Today I discovered several things about myself.
People make the same mistakes again and again. It may come as different forms but they all stem from a core issue (i wouldnt say its a prob cuz it's just how you view it)
When you realise history repeating itself, esp if you dont like it, it's time to review why.
I personally used the enneagram to analyse myself today. I planned for an activity lovingly, but things didnt turn out as i planned. then i started to think (i mean, overthink), and then i started to play the 'not fair' game...feeling like i'm the only idiot who set aside time and effort. But the truth is, when someone doesnt speak it, doesnt mean he doesnt think it or plan it. From my relaxed enneagram number 2 (loving), i went into my stressed self number 5 (thinker), then back to my normal self number 8 (challenger)-thats when i feel things are unfair, and started trying to challenge and bring 'justice' to the situation.
Also found out that i'm a vedic moon in virgo recently. Such pple are anal and have high standards of self and others. but who is to judge what is the standard? as a famous saying goes, just cuz you dont get what you want, doesnt mean that your loved ones love you any less. maybe it's time i take a breather, and a step back..to realise that one may be giving 100%, though it may not be what i expect.
I have concluded that a pure heart with a genuinely good intention, giving a 100% percent is almost enough. Topped with icing of wanting continuous self improvement, and one's own fighting spirit.
Just The Girl @
9:19 PM
Sunday, August 14, 2011
A marriage is a contract. If two are in love, why is there a need for a contract to bind them together? If one cheated on the other and decided to stay together because of a contract, is it love? If you know of an old couple who has been married for the last 50 years, would you think that they truly love each other? If you know of an old couple who stayed together for the last 50 years without marriage, wouldn’t you think that the latter couple is DEFINITELY much more in love than the former?
Marriage and love are mutually exclusive. Love can exist without marriage and marriage can be kept without love.
If you want to know if a person is available, don’t ask if he/she is married. Ask if he/she is in love.
-got this from a friend..she read it on a blog. enjoy! =)
Just The Girl @
6:50 PM
Saturday, January 08, 2011
Little did many know that our dear Isaac Newton (yes, the one who studied falling apples) was a psychologist too. Here's why.
Newton's first law states that without a net force, an object will remain stationary if it was stationary, and will continue moving if it was moving in the first place. The law of inertia.
How often have you felt inertia about doing something, but once you start on it, you can't stop? this can include eating popcorns, exercising, and yes, even working. yes, workaholics, that's you.
Newton's second law states that if there is an uneven force, there is an acceleration or deceleration. Many a time we go cruising along our lives, till we experience a setback, till someone gives us a push..then we change the speed of things..eg demise of a workaholic who dedicated their entire life to the company slows us down in our conquest to climb the corporate ladder...a nasty comment from someone causes us to reflect and 'do something' about our current 'pathetic' position.
Newton's third law states that with every action, there is a reaction. This one is easy. try punching some stranger on the street. you will understand why.
Salutez to Newton.
Just The Girl @
8:17 PM
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Spent 2.5 hours talking to an insurance trainer yesterday..almost convinced to join the business, to earn for my uni fees.. but just gonna state two big reasons why I decided not to, in the end.
1) 40 compulsory hours to be clocked at my current full time job, plus another 30 hours to be clocked at the insurance company is a killer. Its not that i'm unwilling to work long hours. i'm a certified workaholic, but having been thru the workaholic phase, i know i need my sports and sleep to be happy, and fufilled.
2) still not really 100% comfortable with the concept of the large cut of commission i will get as an insurance. Also, even if i do well and earn enough for the year, the agent whom i pass my portfolios to, will be the one subsequently benefiting for the rest of the years that the contract is on.
So, yes, as much as i really want to study overseas and need the cash badly, i still decided against it. for my own mental and physical health, and my conscience. Choose to refute it if you wish. but that's how i think for now, and i'm a taurus.
one full day of research on universities today and i came to a big conclusion. frustrated that all the criminal psychology courses are either too expensive (because they are all in the states, or UK and they literally 'slaughter' foreigners with the high tuition fees), or they are not where i want to resident. also, in the US, where all pharmacists are all high and mighty with a pharmD, there is no way i can make use of my degree to get licenced there and earn for my next degree.
Even in Canada, where I am aiming to resident, the fees are exorbitant for foreigners. the only solution i can think of, is to do my masters in pharmacy in a low-cost quiet university there, preferably under partial scholarship, while getting my pharmacy licence, then get my residency, take on a career as a pharmacist there while studying my true passion: criminal psychology.
Been aiming at this course since i was 16..but 8 years later, I am a pharmacist still yearning for the course. The road is long and winding, with many many things, and maybe even relationships i give up along the way..but my love for studying and staying overseas..is too great for me to give up. I honestly wish there could just be some kindhearted soul who will sponsor. in my dreams maybe? haha.
Money is not everything, but it's important. but so are other things in life. Hence, i believe that although i will be taking a really long winding, and maybe lonely road, that i will see many things and experience many things many do not have the chance to see.
cheers to the marathon to come.
Life is a journey. A long one indeed. =)
Just The Girl @
9:40 PM
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
'I didn’t fail that day because I had already
reconciled myself to failure, and I didn’t
suffer because I had decided that I had
already suffered enough.'
Read this from an athlete's account. Thought it was intriguing.
Acceptance is the key to living.
You would only have had a bad day if you said it was one. And not expecting too much of your day will make a bad day seemingly not so bad; and a good day, great.
Just The Girl @
5:33 PM
Was reading through my old blogs. Realised there are missing bits of my life that i forgot to update. One important milestone was a nightmare past revisited. and a chapter closed.
Met my blood brother, found out how he was doing, mutually agreed to not keep in contact, and am surprised at how easily i could let go of the past when it had always been bothering me, nagging at some corner of my heart.
Many a time, we try to avoid conflict, to avoid facing the music. But we realise that when we finally do, we created a mountain out of a molehill in the past, and we laugh at ourselves.
It was an impulse and a by-chance situation that I confronted my past. But i never once regretted it. Sometimes, i realise, people are simply looking for an official closure. No reasons, no explanations needed. Just to know what's going on, set a verdict and close the case, move on for good.
Have you any past which haunts you? Close it, before it closes in on you.
Just The Girl @
8:41 AM
Are you prepared for the exam?
Are you prepared for the race?
Are you prepared for the competition?
How many times have we, or do we hear this throughout our lives? Yet how many times do we confidently say 'yessss, we are prepared'?
Truth be told, we are never fully prepared. We can never be. Life is unexpected, and even so you think you are fully prepared, something, somewhere will pop up in the last minute and walaaa you are caught offguard. So what's my point?
Because we can never fully be prepared for something, the skill of thinking on the spot, and spontaneity is not a gift, but a crucial skill for survival.
More spontaneous and quick-minded people succeed, compared to those who spend sooo much time preparing. Dont blame them, or be envious. they probably spent time preparing the skill of quick-wit, or spontaneity compared to preparing materials. Of course, it would be good to have the best of both worlds, but many a time we can't, and hence need to prioritize.
Marathoners are given a tag to write encouragement words for the back of your shirt. next year, mine will be 'didn't train? so didn't 80% of us. JUST RUN, DAMN IT!'
Just The Girl @
8:13 AM
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Determined and driven to excellence in all she does, Mindy tends to be very competitive. She is not afraid to "go for" what she desires or wants, and is willing to put forth the effort for success. Mindy is not afraid to challenge others in her quest to achieve her end goals, but she also respects position and authority and is not unnecessarily confrontational.
Neat and orderly, others usually see Mindy as practical. She needs adequate information to make decisions, and she will consider the pros and cons. She may be sensitive to criticism, and will tend to internalize her emotions. Mindy likes to clarify expectations before undertaking new projects, and she will follow a logical process to gain successful results.
Mindy prefers a rational and moderate approach when first entering new situations and tries to avoid extremes. She likes the company of others, but Mindy is equally comfortable spending a quiet evening alone. She is a realist who will always weigh her options before she makes a decision to move ahead.
Mindy doesn't care for routine and will often actively try to change monotonous situations. She tends to march to the beat of her own drum, and prefers to do things on her own so she can work at her own pace. Mindy is sometimes seen as being in a hurry to get where she is going since she tends to move quickly from one thing to the next.
Just The Girl @
12:23 AM
Saturday, June 05, 2010
Here are some thoughts I was analysing during jogging yesterday.
I couldnt decide which is my first love, running or karate.
Then I linked it to men having second wives or mistresses. Let me analyse it for you.
How did that happen? having 2 loves.
1)some people, like me, chanced upon it(karate), tried it out, took it seriously and realised that they liked it.
2)some people found the first love monotonous/boring after awhile, and started looking for the second - the second need not be very interesting or different from the first, but its at least something new. In fact, they can be dangerously similar.
3)the second love has sth which the first love lacks(in the case of karate, its the adrenaline rush), which the person feels its important or exciting once in awhile.
No matter what the reason, there are always times we feel we love the second one better, but the good first one is always innate, there to stay.
No matter the reason, both requires lotsa time and effort, and once you decide to have a second love, the attention is split. There is no longer such thing as 100% so dont bullshit and say you can give 100% to either of the loves anymore.
As someone told me once: the new may be interesting but the old is gold.
Another told me: Mindy, all men are not decent.
I think both statements are true.
Just The Girl @
8:31 AM
